IVF examination

As I'm walking towards Rikshospitalet from the parking lot, I'm trembling with expectation. I am excited and nervous because today I have time appointment where it will be assesed whether I'm a suitable candidate for IVF treatment, as a single woman. What questions will be asked? What will they say? Will I be defined as unsuitable? That will be the worst possible outcome, that I will be deemed not suitable to become a mother because I'm sick.

Before I went to Denmark, I went through a number of thoughts and considerations about becoming a mother on my own. In some ways I have probably thought this through more than most people, who do it the "regular way". Since I got sick, many of the same thoughts have popped up again, with the disease in mind. Being alone will make this child more vulnerable if something happens to me. But the prognosis for Lupus indicates that I will most likely live a long and fairly normal life. And life can happen to anyone. Even the healthiest and fittest can end up in accidents and vanish. Should the fact that something terrible might happen stop us from having children?

With this train of thought running in my head I'm called into the doctor's office. The feeling of going for an audition disappears as soon as I enter the office. There is a friendly and humane tone in her voice and the way she asks the questions makes me relax. She asks thorough questions about my diagnosis and treament. After an ultrasound examination the appointment is coming to an end, and the conclusion is; I'm a suitable candidate for IVF and will get an attempt. 

​The waiting list for a spermdonor is long, and the waiting time is about 12 months, but at least I am on the list!